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Quiz :: Test Your
Knowledge on Teen Dating Violence
You think you
know... but do you?
Choose which one you think is the truth or
common misconception.
1. People
who stay in abusive relationships like to endure pain.
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Misconception
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Truth
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I don’t
know
Teens stay in abusive relationships for
many reasons; some of which include Self-blame, shame, love and concern
for the abuser, and the fear of their parents not approving of the
relationship; nut none of which of their reasons includes liking the
abuse. People who leave their batterer are also most likely to put
themselves in a high risk position of being killed by their batterer.
2. Domestic
violence only happens to people who live in poverty.
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Misconception
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Truth
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I don’t
know
"Domestic violence only happens to people
who live in poverty" is a common misconception. No matter what class,
race, age, or religion someone comes from, abuse exists in any and all
forms of relationships.
3. Batterers
may have a "public face" where they seem to be nice and friendly and
a "private face" where they are mean and abusive.
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Misconception
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Truth
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I don’t
know
Batterers may have a "public’face where
they seem to be nice and friendly and a private face where they are mean
and abusive" is the truth. A batterer can seem to be a sweet and
innocent person when around other people, but insensitive, and abusive
person
4. The
use of alcohol and/ or drugs are not the cause if violence yet may cause
someone to participate in risky behavior
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Misconception
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Truth
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I don’t
know
"The use of alcohol and/ or drugs is not
the cause of violence, yet may cause someone to participate in risky
behavior" is the truth. Drugs and alcohol lowers the control of violent
behavior and is often used as an excuse for the battering. For the use
of alcohol, Richard Hass NTAC Myths and Realities
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1/3 of batterers don’t drink at all.
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Another 1/3 has an alcohol problem,
but batter when they are drunk.
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The other 1/3 batter only when they
are drunk.
5. Batterers
are crazy people with issues and are totally psychotic.
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Misconception
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Truth
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I don’t
know
Batterers are perfectly normal people that
we see in our everyday normal lives. They can be quiet, smart, cool,
organize, athletic, musically talented, etc. Anyone can be an
abuser/batterer.
6. Domestic
violence can happen to anyone, [man or women], in any type of
relationship, [same-sex and heterosexual].
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Misconception
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Truth
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I don’t
know
See sheet on similarities/ differences
between heterosexual and same-sex relationship abuse.
Lesbian, gay, and transgender survivors
often feel especially alone because the issue of same-sex domestic
violence has not been widely discussed, researched, or publicized. [www.youthresources.com]
7. People
who are being abused push the abuser to become violent.
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Misconception
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Truth
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I don’t
know
The batterers uses abuse to take control
over the life of the survivor. Intimidation, threats, psychological
abuse, and isolation are some behaviors the batterer uses towards the
survivor. A survivor never acts or pushes the abuser to become violent.
8. People
who yell and hit as a way of taking control of another person’s behavior
are most likely to be abusive.
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Misconception
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Truth
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I don’t
know
9. Battering
is just as much a teen issue, as it is an adult issue.
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Misconception
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Truth
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I don’t
know
In fact, 28% of students interviewed
experienced violence in a dating relationship, which are more than 1 in
4 students. [see
www.mmavs.org].
10.
It’s easy easy to tell if someone is in an
abusive relationship.
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Misconception
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Truth
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I don’t
know
Usually survivors are good at hiding the
fact that there partner is abusive. A survivor will come up with excuse
and stories for bruises on their body and the actions/behavior of their
partner. Fear, shame, love, for their partner, etc. will cause the
survivor to not admit and hide from telling the truth.
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