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What is Abuse? :: Checklist - Do
You Have a Problem with Battering?
This is not clinically proven but based on
clinical experience with batterers and a concept of what constitutes the
typical personality of battering men. Remember, batterers are not
psychopaths or sociopaths; they are average, ordinary men. They are the
man next door, they president of the PTA, the head of the Boy Scouts,
the man who pulls over to help you change you tire, the town doctor or
lawyer. These are not "sick" men but who, in many ways, are normally
socialized by this culture which is violent and sexist.
If a person answers yes to any
three of the following questions they may have a problem with
battering:
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I get frustrated easily.
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I have very few close male friends.
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I try to stay in control at all times.
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I believe in the sayings, "A man’s
home is his castle" and "A man’s wife is his property".
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I enjoy bloody, violent movies.
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I am the extremely jealous type.
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Most things that go wrong in my life
are other people’s fault.
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I drink heavily and/or use a lot of
drugs.
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When I get angry I tend to explode.
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There was violence in my childhood
home.
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I feel I must win arguments and often
will do anything in order to win. I often find myself apologizing,
apologizing, and apologizing.
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